I’ve been down this path. More times than I care. For me, I don’t know about love being a renewable resource. Time is. I get a new 24 hours every day. And in that I use some of it in acts of love to those around me. Or myself. And to receive acts of love demonstrated by others. But that 24 hours has its limits. As I was reminded - time is the most precious thing to give. Once given it cannot be recovered. And one day, the resource will stop being renewable. And I hope I can leave behind other acts of love created by my existence.
"Where does the love go, when you can not give it to someone any longer?"
Oof – felt that line massively. Thanks for sharing it out into the world <3 xoxo, someone else who feels love never leaves but is instead like the Earth's hydrologic cycle.
Tara Giancaspro: I am blessed with a very beautiful, patient, deeply wise woman, The-LOVE-of-my-LIFE, Nancy, who has put up with a bumbling if loving, intellectual (egg-head, really) husband, who "doesn't listen" and is "clueless" and who has been selfish many, many times I wish I could have changed, but has always loved her the more and is very grateful that Nancy and I have had a wonderful life together (53-years-together, 51-married). I have deep love of Nancy. But I really doubt I am better than the persons you describe, I have such faults that are hard to overcome and am after all clueless.
I can tell you, I wish that during our 53 years I could have fully been the person SHE deserved, because I think she would even be happier than she is.
The most rewarding thing I have heard was a few months ago, when she reflected, that she is THANKFUL for the PERSON she is.
That WARMED my heart so deeply, because I felt that for all of my many faults, Nancy on the whole has had the love and security that she could walk her own walk and fulfill the person SHE is.
That was one of the happier experiences, and I keep treasuring it.
At 76 it is possible to feel the very stirrings of love that brought you together at 22.
From your writing, you seem to be a very solid, good person, and you deserve to continue finding your fulfillment in your intellectual and artistic gifts and to be surrounded by persons who support and love you.
Also, I have been with my Matt for nearly 6 years now and it too would warm his heart so much to see me love myself like he loves me.You sound just like my Matt, a good, good man who has held me through many hurts and the lingerings of those before his time. You are a finer partner than you think.
Tara Giancaspro: Tara Giancaspro: My Light-and-Love, Nancy, was young, vulnerable, was an only child who suffered recently the loss of both parents -- I met her WONDERFUL Dad shortly before he passed away, and . . . well, Nancy has always been such an open, optimistic, beautiful spirit, that we grew through that time. But my OCD made me withdraw into myself and she had to verbally so-to-speak hit me between the eyes in year 7, but I loved her so much that I tried hard and to giant leaps inwardly that looked like baby steps to her, but she had the patience to wait through.
I bet Matt feels he is with the most WONDERFUL woman. I read and comment on your column because I perceive a person of intellect and spirituality (in the European, Continental sense of the term -- NOT in the corrupted Fundamentalist devolution of that concept).
We live day by day. In any day, we might not accomplish as much as we want. But over the decades.
You share worthwhile thoughts in vivid prose and your writing is inviting to us and we grow in friendship with YOU, the person behind the prose.
I don't have words, garrulous as I am, to thank you enough for taking the time to read, to reflect, to express yourself, and so openly relate to my work. I really don't. I'm just struck with silent gratitude. I am very lucky to have this platform and meet such lovely people. Thank you.
I’ve been down this path. More times than I care. For me, I don’t know about love being a renewable resource. Time is. I get a new 24 hours every day. And in that I use some of it in acts of love to those around me. Or myself. And to receive acts of love demonstrated by others. But that 24 hours has its limits. As I was reminded - time is the most precious thing to give. Once given it cannot be recovered. And one day, the resource will stop being renewable. And I hope I can leave behind other acts of love created by my existence.
I feel you. So much.
"Where does the love go, when you can not give it to someone any longer?"
Oof – felt that line massively. Thanks for sharing it out into the world <3 xoxo, someone else who feels love never leaves but is instead like the Earth's hydrologic cycle.
Thank you for reading and sharing your heart. ❤️
Tara Giancaspro: I am blessed with a very beautiful, patient, deeply wise woman, The-LOVE-of-my-LIFE, Nancy, who has put up with a bumbling if loving, intellectual (egg-head, really) husband, who "doesn't listen" and is "clueless" and who has been selfish many, many times I wish I could have changed, but has always loved her the more and is very grateful that Nancy and I have had a wonderful life together (53-years-together, 51-married). I have deep love of Nancy. But I really doubt I am better than the persons you describe, I have such faults that are hard to overcome and am after all clueless.
I can tell you, I wish that during our 53 years I could have fully been the person SHE deserved, because I think she would even be happier than she is.
The most rewarding thing I have heard was a few months ago, when she reflected, that she is THANKFUL for the PERSON she is.
That WARMED my heart so deeply, because I felt that for all of my many faults, Nancy on the whole has had the love and security that she could walk her own walk and fulfill the person SHE is.
That was one of the happier experiences, and I keep treasuring it.
At 76 it is possible to feel the very stirrings of love that brought you together at 22.
From your writing, you seem to be a very solid, good person, and you deserve to continue finding your fulfillment in your intellectual and artistic gifts and to be surrounded by persons who support and love you.
Also, I have been with my Matt for nearly 6 years now and it too would warm his heart so much to see me love myself like he loves me.You sound just like my Matt, a good, good man who has held me through many hurts and the lingerings of those before his time. You are a finer partner than you think.
Tara Giancaspro: Tara Giancaspro: My Light-and-Love, Nancy, was young, vulnerable, was an only child who suffered recently the loss of both parents -- I met her WONDERFUL Dad shortly before he passed away, and . . . well, Nancy has always been such an open, optimistic, beautiful spirit, that we grew through that time. But my OCD made me withdraw into myself and she had to verbally so-to-speak hit me between the eyes in year 7, but I loved her so much that I tried hard and to giant leaps inwardly that looked like baby steps to her, but she had the patience to wait through.
I bet Matt feels he is with the most WONDERFUL woman. I read and comment on your column because I perceive a person of intellect and spirituality (in the European, Continental sense of the term -- NOT in the corrupted Fundamentalist devolution of that concept).
We live day by day. In any day, we might not accomplish as much as we want. But over the decades.
You share worthwhile thoughts in vivid prose and your writing is inviting to us and we grow in friendship with YOU, the person behind the prose.
I hope Matt continues to be worthy of your love.
I don't have words, garrulous as I am, to thank you enough for taking the time to read, to reflect, to express yourself, and so openly relate to my work. I really don't. I'm just struck with silent gratitude. I am very lucky to have this platform and meet such lovely people. Thank you.
Your love is worth so much more than you think! 🥰🥰🥰
Beautifully written piece. Your poetic observations balanced with tangible descriptions really brought the emotion out in the work. Well done! 👏👏
Thank you so much, Heather. A needed compliment in this tender time. ❤️
As someone who's never been in love, thanks for sharing with me what it be like sometimes :)
Honey, I can’t stress enough what you’re NOT missing. I mean, I got real real lucky with Matt but it is a jungle out there!!
Sheryl Lee Ralph and Steve Burns are gifts, aren't they?
Of MAGNITUDE, yes.